How to Control Your Emotions During a Difficult Conversation: The Harvard Business Review Guide reviews
When you’re in the middle of a conflict, it’s common to automatically enter a “fight or flight” mentality. But it’s possible to interrupt this response and clear a path towards a more productive discussion.
00:00 Have you ever lost control during a heated argument at work?
00:28 Emotions are a chemical response to a difficult situation.
01:35 To stay calm, first acknowledge and label your feelings.
02:25 Next, focus on your body.
03:32 Use visualizations.
04:19 Focus on your breath.
04:52 Repeat a calming phrase or mantra.
05:08 Ok. Let’s review.
Start by taking a deep breath and focusing on your body. Repeat a mantra to yourself such as “This isn’t about me,” “This will pass,” or “This is about the business.” And try to distance yourself from the negative emotion you’re feeling by labeling it: “He is so wrong about that and it’s making me mad becomes I’m having the thought that my coworker is wrong, and I’m feeling anger.” And don’t forget the value of taking a break. The more time you give yourself to process your emotions, the less intense they are likely to be.
Reading list:
https://hbr.org/2017/12/how-to-control-your-emotions-during-a-difficult-conversation
https://hbr.org/2015/12/calming-your-brain-during-conflict
https://hbr.org/2013/02/break-your-addiction-to-being
https://hbr.org/2021/01/how-to-keep-your-cool-in-high-stress-situations
https://hbr.org/2015/05/recovering-from-an-emotional-outburst-at-work
https://hbr.org/2021/12/managing-your-emotions-during-a-negotiation
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Ena –
Doesn't work with respect to relentless bullying in the workplace – but – for most conversations it's good advice.
bariscan –
Here is the only formula you need: do not personalize it, try to respond not react. Think that you are there, who is self confident, having enough compassion and maturity, to balance the tension and emotions, in a honest way. In the end they will respect you, and you will build trust which has been the most valuable asset throughout the history.
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Think.1.You may be right, yes but..2.Don't too focus on goal.3.Be good listening.4.Ask, why I'm crazy.
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This is the best video ever it helps everyone!
Piya Chaudhuri –
Thank you for the useful video. A request. Could you keep the background music on the lower side. That way the speaker's voice is more clear. Thank you.
Neil Acquatella –
I'm just reading Seneca's De Ira; this is timely, and useful from HBR. Thanks
shafiakutty –
What do deal with people you hate the most ? Please cover this in future…..
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Change subjuct thinking.